Business By Hormozi #157: The Art of a Healthy Relationship
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Understanding the Balance Between Togetherness and Space
Sarah and David had been married for ten years. To the outside world, they seemed like the perfect couple—supportive, loving, and always there for each other. But what people didn’t see was the real secret behind their strong marriage: they knew when to give each other space.
It wasn’t because they didn’t love each other. It wasn’t because they were unhappy. It was because they understood a simple but often overlooked truth—wanting to be alone isn’t the same as wanting to leave someone.
The Difference Between Distance and Disconnect
When Sarah came home from work, she often needed an hour to unwind. She’d sit on the porch with a book, enjoying the quiet. David didn’t take it personally. He didn’t hover or ask if something was wrong. He understood—this was her way of recharging.
And when David wanted a weekend to go hiking with his friends, Sarah didn’t assume it meant he was tired of their marriage. She didn’t make it about herself. She understood—he needed space to be his own person.
This understanding is what separated them from so many other couples who struggled with constant tension.
Some people mistake their partner’s need for solitude as rejection.
Others assume a request for space means something is wrong.
The worst mistake? Trying to control or guilt-trip someone for needing time alone.
But the healthiest relationships know the truth: giving each other space isn’t a sign of trouble—it’s a sign of trust.
The Couples That Get It Right
Imagine two scenarios:
Couple A: Mark loves playing video games in the evening to relax, but his wife, Lisa, constantly interrupts him, asking why he’s “ignoring” her. Over time, he starts resenting her, and she starts feeling unwanted.
Couple B: James enjoys painting on the weekends, and his wife, Emily, happily lets him have his creative time. She knows it makes him happy, and when he’s done, he’s excited to share his work with her.
Both couples love each other. But only one of them understands that being apart sometimes actually strengthens the relationship.
The Power of a Partner Who Understands
A good spouse isn’t just someone who’s there for you—they’re someone who knows you.
They know the difference between alone time and avoidance.
They don’t get insecure when you need space.
They recognize that a strong relationship isn’t built on constant togetherness, but on mutual respect and trust.
Sarah and David’s marriage wasn’t perfect. But they had something many couples lack: the ability to let each other breathe. And that’s why, ten years in, they were still going strong.
Final Thought
The best relationships don’t smother—they support.
So if your partner needs space, don’t take it personally. Trust that they’ll come back—not because they have to, but because they want to forming Healthy Relationships.
