Business By Hormozi #179: Humility Over Celebration

Introduction: Two Friends, Different Views on Birthdays

Anna and Sarah were close friends who had known each other for years. While they had many things in common, their views on birthdays were very different. Anna loved celebrating her birthday with big parties, grand gestures, and lots of attention. She felt that her special day should be treated as an event everyone should remember.

On the other hand, Sarah had a more humble approach to birthdays. "I’ve never been the type to make a big deal out of it," Sarah often said. "It’s just another day, and I’ve always thought that if people really cared, they wouldn’t need an excuse to show it."

One day, they were having coffee when Anna started planning her upcoming birthday celebration. Sarah listened quietly before speaking up.

Sarah's Perspective: The Value of Humility

"You know, Anna," Sarah began, "I’ve never admired anyone who insisted their birthday was a big deal. It’s one thing to celebrate with close friends and family, but I’ve always believed that true connection and appreciation should be more about the everyday moments, not just a single day."

Anna was taken aback. "What do you mean? Birthdays are supposed to be special, a time when you can feel extra loved and appreciated."

Sarah smiled. "I get that. But why should we wait for one day a year to feel valued? Real relationships are built on consistent care, not just grand gestures on special occasions."

The Turning Point: A New Perspective on Celebrations

Over the next few weeks, Anna started to reflect on Sarah’s words. She realized that she often expected a lot of attention on her birthday, but maybe that wasn’t the most meaningful way to receive affection. Perhaps it was more important to focus on the everyday moments that showed true care—like a friend checking in on you just because, or a colleague offering help without being asked.

When her birthday arrived, Anna didn’t plan an extravagant celebration. Instead, she enjoyed a small dinner with her closest friends, appreciating the quiet connection they shared. She found that the more humble celebration felt even more special.

The Lesson: Humility Over Self-Centered Celebrations

The moral of the story? Birthdays don’t need to be a big deal. What matters more is the genuine, consistent care we receive from others throughout the year. While it's nice to be celebrated on your birthday, true appreciation is shown in everyday acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, not just during an annual event.

Why Humility Adds Value to Relationships

Anna’s experience taught her that relationships should not be about grand gestures or the pressure of one day a year to feel special. Instead, it’s the consistent, humble acts of care and love that create deeper connections. By embracing humility and appreciating the smaller moments, you’ll find that the value of your relationships extends far beyond your birthday.

Conclusion: Focus on Everyday Appreciation

While birthdays can be a time for celebration, true admiration and love should be built on everyday interactions. Humility in how we view ourselves and our relationships brings greater depth to our connections, making us feel appreciated all year round, not just on a special day with Humility Over Celebration.